http://www.blogadda.com/rate.php?blgid=62879 Are you pained by someone’s pain??like most of the aware people even I don’t support human trafficking, child labour n begging but then small kids on traffic lights selling balloons, old lady in front of food outlets begging,always take my attention and I feel like helping, sometimes I find myself so pained that I […]
Are you pained by someone’s pain??like most of the aware people even I don’t support human trafficking, child labour n begging but then small kids on traffic lights selling balloons, old lady in front of food outlets begging,always take my attention and I feel like helping, sometimes I find myself so pained that I loose my cantrol,knowing by helping them I am actually boosting them I help them, retaining some part of my belief that I don’t help financially but by giving her the food or buying them biscuits or bread as I can’t bear the sight of hungry kids staring at the food we are having for our taste.Thoughts slave my mind we are spending for change of taste and they are not getting even the basic meal. Psychological pain is believed to be an inescapable aspect of human existence
We get moved when we saw a poor, miserable , homeless man on street . Apart from feeling guilty if not helping that person there are sad emotions that we feel when we see anyone suffering.
It happens ‘coz somewhere you experience some of his pain the moment you saw him. Being human we absorb some emotions of the person we are watching or may be we are listening to and then experience a change in our mood, though actually nothing as such as happened to us.
It happens as emotions are communicated to our mind from the kind of people we deal with. Just like when we watch horror movies, we get scared when we saw actors in the movies getting scared, its because their emotions through their gestures, facial expressions are communicated to us.
When we come across any confident, live person we start feeling confident. Such people transfer their emotions and make us feel calm and relaxed. On the other hand an anxious person transfers his anxiety unconsciously to us, making us feel uneasy and restless.
But things get actually worse when you don’t realize that the sadness you feel is not your own.
The stronger your connections with another, the more likely you ‘ll feel connected with their feelings. Like as in case of your kids, the bond is incredibly powerful and so does feelings are connected automatically. Depending on the strength of your relationship, your heart sense the heart of your siblings, parents and close friends and leads you in an unwanted mood swing.
Its important to keep a check on our moods,try n analyse your mood pattern.
If you get a rapid mood shift, check if it pertains to your life. Is something bothering you? Are you upset about something? Do you have feelings that are growing inside you in context of any particular incident ? You will get a clear picture that emotions you are feeling are yours .May be you ve been overthinking about that thing a lot and thus it has started taking a surface on ur moods now.
But, if you’re in a good or neutral mood, it isn’t natural to feel dispirited or hopeless the next moment.Then you’re probably picking up someone else’s emotional pain. And once you realize it isn’t yours, it’s easier to deal with it.
Recently watched a movie, wherein, a man got trapped in an underconstruction building, no light, no network, no battery, no food…immediately put me in the thought of I should always carry a powerbank and some ready eat stuff and water with me. The whole situation just slaved my mind, I started feeling low about the uncertainty of life, friends and even relationships.It wasn’t something that unusual to have put me into this mood,but I just got so depressed , when I tried to come out of this,thinking its a fiction,its a movie but my mind started telling me stories of such miserable thing, that I should think of it more. Here we need cantrol!!! Do not take this energy and make it your own! It’s not yours.
Do you really want to feel down over something that has nothing to do with you or your life? Yes, its good to have compassion for the other. But, you don’t want to take on their pain.
State “This is not mine.” Then, notice it and get curious about it. Set a strong intention not to take on the other person’s pain or karma.
This Too Shall Pass
Tell yourself this will pass. It will pass. Someone is having emotions and it will stop. Sometimes the feelings last only a few minutes. The sooner you get aware that isn’t mine, the quicker you will stop feeling it. Because you pick up emotions of people you love, you allow the connection. You feel their pain and send compassion to them, even if you are not sure who is suffering.
Take care of Yourself
Take care of yourself. What will make you feel better now? Pamper yourself by whatever way you want like watching a funny movie, a bath,a walk in fresh air, or may be by indulging yourself in some good meal.
I allow the energy of the emotion to be there without me having to fix it, clear it, or take care of it. I allow it and trust it will dissipate. And it does.
The next time you suddenly feel sad, question if the sadness is your own emotion. Don’t be so quick to think that you are depressed. As more people are becoming psychically sensitive, it’s important to keep checking in to see if something you’re experiencing is coming from your own heart or someone else’s and if its really worth it to take over you and your mind.